Some people would say I am “privileged”. I grew in a family where both parents worked, I got a decent education both in school and out, and I had never been hungry or without shelter. I went to college, got a career that allows me to do the stuff I like to do – travel, play with my toys, and having good times when I want. In general, I enjoy my life…

But nothing is perfect. I was blessed in many areas, but I was denied in others. My physical appearance, in the spectrum between George Clooney and Quasimodo, falls closer to Quasimodo’s end. My bank account requires regular attention to avoid overdrafts and I have a lot of debt. The worst of all is that I have a small penis.

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you know I have mentioned that fact a few times. My little friend is 5 inches long when erect (in a good day), with the average length being about 4 – 4.5 inches. Its girth (circumference) is around 4 inches, so I basically have the cardboard tube of your toilet paper as a dick…

Human nature believes that “more is better”. Just like some men are obsessed about breast size or ass shapes, there are women out there that are obsessed with the penis size of their partner. My penis had been a source of shame and frustration for me, specially during the beginning of my sexual life. You want to destroy a man’s self-esteem? Just laugh hysterically while pointing at his penis when he undresses in front of you.

Women with small breasts have the option of getting implants. Your ass is too small or flat? You can get plastic surgery for that too. Small dick? You are fucked – because you will not fuck. Penile transplant is still in experimental stages – only 3 had been done worldwide with the first penile transplant in the US happened just a few months ago (May 2016). Enlargement devices? They will add half an inch after months of use and the risk of tissue damage. Enlargement pills and creams? Please, they are all fake…

The only option when you have a small penis is to learn to live with it. Of course, that was what I had to do and in the process, I learned that having a small penis can have a couple of advantages…

 Public erections

One of the most pleasurable sensations a man can get is when his penis is getting erect. I love the sensation of my penis getting hard and having a small one allows me to enjoy that sensation everywhere without worrying about it showing through my jeans. I can be sitting on an airplane, fantasizing about fucking the flight attendant or the attractive woman sitting next to me and the only thing I need to hide it is the flap of the seat belt. The trick only works with jeans – dress pants or khakis will show the erection regardless of the underwear…

 Easier, quicker erections

Talking about erections, having a smaller penis allows me to “recharge” faster than a guy with a javelin between his pants. The penis is a hydraulic chamber – tissue that fills with blood under pressure – so, the bigger the chamber, the more time it takes to fill it. A smaller penis requires less blood to fill (and less pressure), so health issues have less effects on my little friend. I’m an obese 44 years old guy with the conditions associated with my age, Hispanic heritage, and family health story. Still, I can get my little friend ready for work at will – unlike some “healthy” younger guys with porn dicks between their legs. I envy their length, but I don’t envy the need of magic pills to make it work…

 Easier for oral and anal beginners

A couple of women out there would say they like big dicks only, but we all know few had to deal with a 10 inch monster in their asses. Even the most seasoned porn stars admit they prefer a normal sized penis in their personal lives. Having a small penis had been an advantage when my partner was doing oral or anal for the first time and it is still a positive when they want to try a new technique. It is less intimidating to face a smaller adversary – even when it does exactly the same effect than a monster. They can go all the way down without worrying about the gag reflex and I can go balls deep in their asses without the worry of tissue rupture or prolapse. It is a win-win situation…

 I have to learn tricks

When you have a small penis, you learn new tricks to pleasure your partner. The key is to satisfy her needs, making her eyes turn like a slot machine, her mouth open asking for air, and her body to shake like an 11 scale earthquake (or his, if you prefer guys). To achieve that mythical orgasm, I cannot rely only on my penis, I need to use all the tools at my disposal. Tongue, fingers, toys, massages, oils, candles, kink – everything is valid to pleasure my partner and that requires me to learn new tricks.

Those tricks are not limited to sexual techniques, but include educating myself about her erogenous parts, her likes / dislikes, and her orgasm triggers. It also requires educating myself about my own body – my triggers, my kinks, and my likes / dislikes. It requires practice, developing stamina, and above all, requires communication. It requires constant learning, because my partners are different and because my body had changed and will continue changing with time.

In Summary…

Having a small penis can be a source of frustration, but once you learn to live with it, it can be a source of fun and pride. If you have a smaller dick, you will have to educate yourself on how to use it as a master and you will need to learn other tricks, but you will have lots of fun in the process.

And for those still desiring I had a bigger tool? For them I have the Black Mamba to make them pay for their gluttony…

 

But wait, there is more!

If you want to learn a few “tricks” on how to use your little friend effectively, check out this article written by my friends Axel and Laura from The School of Squirt. The article Best Sex Positions for Guys with Small Penises is a great beginner’s guide to use your little friend as effective as possible. Hey… it even has videos!